Have a mind that is open and connected to everything and attached to nothing. Buddha said, "The root of suffering is attachment". When our mind or ego becomes attached to the idea or feeling of something, that is the moment we lose the true essence of what we are able to experience in the present moment. If we can adopt an approach of allowing everything to be as it is and everyone to be as they see fit, we can then find our own path that feels true to us and live in the flow of that. From that place, we have the pure joy and pleasure of enjoying and taking from each experience, exactly what was intended without allowing the fear of "what-if's" to creep in. When we allow ourselves to attach, we become enslaved to that which we were trying to control in the first place.
I once read this phrase, "learn the difference between connection and attachment. Connection gives you power, attachment sucks the life out of you."
When we allow ourselves to go with the flow and learn from the rivers, which are always flowing, ever changing and seek the path of least resistance, we can open our hearts to the truth that we own nothing and control no one and feel the true connection to what is happening in the here and now. Everything we own was once owned by someone else and will someday, again be owned by another. Once we can relax into this truth and allow our boat to float downstream or better yet, become the river, it frees us from the stress and worry of the false perception that we ever had any control in the first place.
"When you move amidst the world of sense, free from attachment and aversion alike, there comes a peace in which all sorrows end, and you live
in the wisdom of the self"
~ Bhagavad Gita.
What if the next time we felt the urge to control something, we just paused? Let's see what happens. What if every time we feel the pressure to take over, we took a slow deep breathe instead? What if the next time we felt the fear of losing something creep in, we reminded ourselves that every season comes and goes and we fully trust that the joys and challenges that came with each segment of the year, will find their way back to us once again. Instead of clinging to the past or trying to freeze time we can find peace in the truth that attachment to keeping things just as they are is actually preventing us from enjoying the pleasures of the present moment. Yes, we do have preferences and fulfilments that bring us great joy and love, but what if we imagined that the best is yet to come. What if we believed that if something beloved falls away, it is only to make room or support what is in alignment for us next? What if we believed that the values, and intentions we hold deep in our hearts are always guiding us and things are always working out exactly how they should be, whether we can see it in this present moment or not? How would that feel?
May all your thoughts, words and actions be in alignment with your highest, most authentic self and manifest all of your deepest desires swiftly, by the path of least resistance, whatever that may be!
All the love,